The Jack-Ass in Court

Yesterday (or today if you are on that side of the planet) was the next court appearance in Calgary for my jack-ass ex-boyfriend. This was for the charges filed against him on my behalf from our "domestic incident" five and a half years ago.

When I attended court in November, the judge ordered him to attend anger management counselling and he was to reappear in court on February 20th. If he completed the counselling program at that time, the charges would be dropped; if he did not, the case would go to trial.

The good news from yesterday is that the charges were not dropped. Judging from the attitude of the Crown Prosecutor in November, I half expected that the whole thing would be dismissed whether he fulfilled his end of the deal or not. He has requested more time and the matter was adjourned until April 15th.

The bad news is he obviously has not had counselling yet. I don't know the reason for the adjournment but it is probable that the counselling services have a long waiting list. Or he is just so messed up that the counsellors are still trying to figger out what to do with him.

Or (my conspiracy theory) he is exploiting the system again. In the same way he hid from the law for 5 years so the charges would eventually fall off the books, he is applying the same stall tactics through the courts except that he now has a lawyer who's as slippery as they come.

I saw the inner workings of his psyche when we were together and I have no reason to believe there is anything different now. He has a deep down need to "get away with it" ... "it" being anything he can! Sneaking into movies, a free meal, excessive use store return/refund policies (buy it, use it, throw a loud and public tantrum if they will not take it back), use of people's things (computers, cameras, vehicles) without their knowledge and/or consent, driving without a licence, continuing to "play the field" ... the list goes on and on. Any means necessary to perpetuate his free ride is justified in his mind and that includes lies, bullying and physical force. Having seen first hand the lengths he went to to try and get out of the charges against him by another previous ex-girlfriend, I am happy to be out of the country and out of reach. Fortunately he did not succeed in weaselling his way out, he was convicted but then failed to complete his sentances. My fear is that he will get a counsellor who buys into his crap instead of digging for the truth and looking for a real solution to the "Rick" problem.

So its not over yet. And in the mean time he is still out there, probably looking for his next meal ticket.

On another note, a couple of people I know saw a psychic a few weeks ago and the predictions she gave have been eerily accurate so far! I am curious but at the same time, not sure I want to know. I called anyway; she is fully booked for the next few months. Coincidently, I have an appointment to see her in April just a few days before jack-ass ex-boyfriend's next court date. Since the courts and the 'system' are not too forthcoming with information, maybe she will tell me what's going on and how this is all going to end!!!